Hi adlatum--
My desire to save everyone, to stop pain and abuse both to the self and to others. Another pretty obvious trait of us?!
I think for me, the wanting to save everyone else was the most overwhelming bad habit. The stopping abuse to the self was a concept I had no education in as a child in an A home. I really grew up just having no clue what was best for ME or how to look out for myself. I was always "other" focused, and trying to change people and fix them and analyze their situation and design the steps they needed to take to improve their lives and change! Ha ha! Insanity!
It has taken me a loooooooooooong time to learn how to focus on myself and my own problems. And just one of my problems was my alcoholic family of origin and my A brothers....I had other problems, dreams, goals that I let be obscured by their problems.
It does get very diabolical - and the codie way of thinking will ultimately make a person as crazy, sick, and in denial as the alcoholic.
Glad you're here!
Peace-
B