Today is her birthday and I'm confused
Today is AS' birthday. It is a sad milestone in the sense that it marks one year to the day that she started actively drinking again (she had 6 months sobriety under her belt previously). I sent her a card and wished her well; I'm feeling stuck when thinking about whether or not I should call her, too. I don't feel comfortable calling because of AS' current lack of sobriety and the probability that my mom will use me calling the house as an opportunity to continue her hysterical rants and raves about what a "bad daughter" I am (my sister lives with my parents). Feeling confused. Maybe just feeling "obligated" because it's family. Thoughts, stories, advice appreciated.