Marie.....I think you are right. Each situation is different and no one answer applies across the board. We did what WE thought was right at the time, and it worked for us. Maybe we were lucky? I like to think that we did what we did because we KNEW how best to handle our situations....and I am trying to not dwell on the codependencies that I exhibited
It is hard, but our path isn't always clear. We could be in very different places right now had we chosen differently...and like you, I am so happy I stuck it out