Thanks for the clarification Pelican I'm still new at this so
I am confused because I feel great about detachment, but I'm not sure if it equates to a marriage separation/pending divorce. I am still struggling with the detachment vs. coexisting. I would like to take "addiction" codependency off the table, but not sure if that means taking myself totally out of the marriage equation. I was confused by that section in the book. It covers detachment very well, but I'm still struggling with "coexistence" while also detaaching, but not sure if that equates to working on an actual separation. So do people who detach stay married? I'm so confused LOL.