I havent had the unfortunate circumstance to date anyone who brought drama to the table since the X. I hate the drama and frankly would not entertain dating anyone who wasn't as stable and as rational as myself. The only thing that is "odd" is that his ex is bi-polar and an addict as well. We both seem to understand the other person's struggles with the X and the need for peace.
I wouldnt say our relationship is boring at all, quite comfortable in fact, but I question the part of my heart that whispers "Is this enough?" compared to the intense passion and deep delight I had for the X, in good times and in bad.
On the one hand I do think like you said that maybe the relationship was just so dysfunctional and obsessive that it wasn't healthy, and that I shouldnt be trying to "duplicate" those feelings and then the flip side is, Maybe I'll never love another like I loved him and I have to accept the "light" love I feel for others instead.
Again, thanks for your insight and encouraging words, i really need them today.