I wandered over to the alcohol forum awhile ago...they were discussing the whys...seems it is right there in the Big Book.
If he has these questions, shouldn't he be taking them to his group?
If he is all ready concerned about a possible relapse, shouldn't he be taking this to his group?
Heavens to mergatroid.....my xabf said I was like a sponsor to him...I was ignorant enough at the time to try to take it on. What hogwash.
He knew where he should be going for his alcoholism. And it wasn't me.
I would suggest that you keep handing his recovery right back to him where it belongs....
you can work out your stuff on a day to day basis.