nightandday,
if you're anything like me, you want the answers right now, and you want to know everything as soon as possible. living in this unknown land, where we don't know how things are going to turn out, and where we just don't understand everything yet, is extremely difficult.
it will be revealed. it really will.
i think your bf is being honest about maybe wanting to use if you are not in his life, but ya know what? these are the times when the rubber hits the road. if he could stay at the rehab facility, if he could be surrounded with people who are living clean and sober lives, where his basic needs are met, well then sure he'd probably be able to stay sober. but it's when life deal out stuff that his sobriety is tested. also, i think he should be so committed to his recovery that he's not entertaining that possibility.
i think this break is going to be really good for BOTH of you. stick with your therapist, and stick with us.