"You don't have to make any decisions yet." Thank you, Suki. I need to hear that over and over. No more reacting, flying off the handle, either-or ultimatums I can't carry through. . .It is easy for me to say since I don't live with my RAH right now. If I were living with him even as he pursues recovery, I'm not sure I would be able to be as calm and clear. So, I'm sure Joslyn it's rough for you. When you are ready to make decisions, you will. In the meantime, please focus on/take care of yourself and your children.