I think all roads lead back to: "where am I in my recovery?"
I feel that when I give advice about life things, I am suggesting that someone can actually fix and control external situations that are largely beyond their control.
I can't fix most situations, but I can fix how I view them and process them.
If/when I call my sponsor with complaints about the chaos in my life, he generally hangs up on me. It's tough love, but it sends a loving message.