Chakra,
I think we all have made people in our lives very angry towards us, and I know I didn't expect the anger to disappear quickly. And, it did take awhile. Fortunately, I am very grateful that my husband and two children have forgiven me. If I was living with someone who could not forgive me, I would not stay. I would not be able to maintain my recovery in that kind of an environment.
For your daughter, I hope and pray that the two of you can work things out. I know that my daughter was 16 - 19 yrs old while I was drinking and she was very angry and unforgiving for a long time. All I can say is that time will help and she may recognize the value of the relationship and decide to heal.