Is it a full moon?
Man, when it rains it pours. The good news about recovery is, nowadays, I can just step back in detached amusement/disbelief, with out getting sucked up in the vortex of dysfunction.....mostly. It still makes me uncomfortable, but at least now I know what to do.
The g-mother called LMC tonight, and of course the first question was where LMC stayed while I was a work this week. I had decided not to share the layoff unless it came up.....see how smart I'm getting!
Any way, LMC got a stricken look on her face and handed me the phone. So I told her I'd gotten laid off last month, but don't worry, we'd be fine what with unemployment etc. Even told her there was a good chance I'd be called back when school starts......no matter. Assured me SHE wasn't going to let anything happen to LMC and me....thanks.
Let the untreated/raging codie tornado begin. Called back 5 min later,
(urgent tone in voice) "had to talk to me, call her back after LMC goes to bed". Now I realize she's half in the bag, nice. I returned her call when LMC went out to play, she again assured me SHE wasn't going to let anything happen to LMC and me......thanks.
Five minutes later, the mom calls, she must have seen the smoke signals or heard the drums.
Five minutes later, my xfil (axw's estranged bio dad, who I haven't talked to for over 2 years ) calls and leaves an angry cryptic message that his wife died last week, and that she was a good woman and I'd treated her like sh!t! Just thought I ought to know. WTF?
About 3 years ago I took LMC up to visit him, against my better judgment, thinking he'd been in recovery for 3+ years from alcoholism. He offered my buddy and me a joint 10 minutes after we got there. Hey, everybody smokes a little weed, right?
I'd only had custody for a few months and he knew what I'd gone through to keep my kid, so he has drugs in the house....nice. I was, um, PI$$ED! Decided I didn't need a guy like that in my life and broke contact.
Ah, let the good times roll.
You know, from my new and improved perspective, this is all just mildly unsettling. But I used to LIVE this dysfunction on a daily basis.
I have to thank HP for this opportunity to see how far I've come, and just how bad it was back there in Dysfunction Junction. It's fascinating, in a bazaar kind of way.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote