I was not lecturing anybody. But I can see that I touched a nerve, and for that I apologize. I was sharing solutions that have worked well for me. Most of the solutions I suggested came from the book "Dogs Behaving Badly" by Dr. Nicholas Dodman of the Tufts Veterinary Behavioral Institute. You can find it at your local library. It's been a godsend for me.
I'm still curious, though. What kind of support were you looking for? The "I'm sorries" and "I know how it feels" or perhaps some options that may work?