My husband has agreed not to bring liquor in the house (which is primarily what I drank) but nothing I say or do is going to keep him from bringing beer in the house, and I have to accept that and learn to live with it, or I could leave. If I left, I KNOW I'd drink. There is no way my recovery could withstand that sort of upset in my life. Divorce would be way more of a trigger than beer in the fridge. Or maybe if I made that big of a stink, he wouldn't bring beer home, but again, the sort of tension and resentment that would cause would endanger my recovery.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I think it would be selfish to demand he not have his beer because of my disease. He works two jobs and at the end of his really really long day he looks forward to his tv and his beer.