Hi BadChoices...
to SR. This is a great place to be.
Let me post the 3 C's of addiction, in case you don't already know them:
You didn't CAUSE it.
You can't CURE it.
You can't CONTROL it.
I know you're in the beginning stages of a relationship, where everything is new and full of hope. It's exciting, breathtaking...and if you're doing it with a recovering alcoholic, it's dangerous. You'll forget your boundaries and let things slide, because you're still in that rather blind stage. I'm not judging you here. I did the same thing. It's what led to me to get together with and marry a alcoholic and sometime-cocaine user. Had I had SR or Al-Anon to guide me then, I don't know if I would have stayed with him.
If you care for this person, I'd recommend stepping WAAAAY back, giving him the space and time to deal with his recovery, and tell him you'll be around when he's been sober for a year. In the grand scheme of your life, a year is not much time.
If you and he are meant to be, then it'll happen. Give him the dignity of dealing with his recovery HIMSELF.