from letgoofmyheart: If you think your afraid, that is nothing compared to what your babies are going thru.
This is so true. So true. I lived this.
from HisChild:I am queen of trying to fix someone. I have a strong support system and an education - the problem is letting go of the dream.
Well you're in the right place then!! Welcome to SR!!
The good news is it is an adjustment of focus issue. I had to find the way of becoming Queen of Fixing Me.
It took some training (AlAnon and therapy gave me the tools) and it took practice (behavior and thoughts are often habitual and new ones have to be performed repeatedly in order to stick!), but with all the energy I was formerly devoting to fixing all the As in my life devoted to me I see there is nothing I cannot handle, figure out, survive, or surmount.
I am not especially smart or disciplined - I just had to admit that my way was not working and follow directions for a while of a better way until it became natural.
The past is gone: you are free in this moment!
Peace-
B