Thank you so much everyone for all your words of encouragement. It is great to hear from people who have been through this and are neutral. So many people think I should "hang in there". The hard part is they remember my husband before the alcohol took hold. I married him because he was a true gentleman and a strong Christian. I never imagined we would be at this place - I guess no one ever does. I have to remember daily that it is not my job to get him sober. I am queen of trying to fix someone. I have a strong support system and an education - the problem is letting go of the dream.