What you're hearing over the phone is
his side of the story. Take it with a grain of salt.
That being said, alcoholism is a family disease. It affects everyone around it.
I did not grow up in an alcoholic home, but my dad is an adult child of two alcoholics, and both died before I was ever born.
There is also alcoholism on my mom's side of the family.
I myself am a recovering alcoholic/addict and codependent.
You might consider some support for yourself. Growing up with alcoholic parents has wounded you, and I do understand you wanting to run away from it all.
The thing is, the wounds are still there.
When I finally walked away from my abusive EXAH, I thought the majority of my problems were solved.
They were not. I continued to repeat the same pattern over and over, only with different men.
I rationalized that each one was 'different' than the EXAH.
It's been through Alanon, reading books like "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie, and therapy off and on over the years that I finally addressed my codependency and learned how to make healthier choices in my life.
