My goodness - you are good for us!!
I didn't get a stitch of self pity from your post at all.
Your knowledge and strength is commendable!!
Your children are so lucky and probably very perceptive. It's possible they know more than you think.
Through it I taught my kids - first of course don't drink or do drugs, the obvious.
But then there is no shame in having this disease - the shame is in allowing it continue untreated.
So sad AH doesn't see that truth. It's going to cost him.
Please come back and let us know how you are doing.