I tried Alanon several times a few years ago and it just didn't click for me. I've been attending Celebrate Recovery for a few weeks now and like it so far. I know I need help! I'm trying my darndest to focus on myself right now...and trying to make a break though it is truly one of the hardest things I've ever attempted. We've been together over 19 years and it shouldn't be an excuse to accept crap, but man this is hard. It didn't help when a month ago I told my 7 year old son that mommy and daddy would probably be splitting up and he burst into tears. I know how things are is not helping my little man at all, but it is hard not to get emotional about that. Ahhhh...oh and I should mention that I went to one on one counseling for my codependency for over a year (several years ago - says a lot huh - I feel like I've made baby step progress)! I wish I could figure myself out.