Trust me......(as others have said) it is not your drinking that will make him change...you are right it is eaiser for him to drink if you are but mostly for the guilt they feel..not becasue you have a problem........I am dealing with the same issues right now except mine has been sober for 4 1/2 months an drecently fallen off the wagon but once AGAIN claiming to be able to drink socially .......needless to say he had a meeting at work this morning about his performance becasue in the last 3 weeks he has missed 4 days.....which all have been missed because of drinking.....he expects me to feel sorry for him and in a way I do but that makes me more pissed off that I let him get to me like that .......we have been datin gfor 1.5 years and same as you in the first 6 months it was "party time" all the time........I guess what I am saying is don't expect mircles and don't rely on him to make you happy or "change" !!