Originally Posted by
outtolunch 
Two issues here....
1) Middle aged family member who drinks, abuses drugs, is in financial poop, unemployed and on unemployment.
What does it matter what this person does? You cannot control this person.
2) The middle aged family member has a live in who has a child who reportedly is not doing well in school. You seem to think this person is in the relationship for money. Given the financial poop, unemployment and all, this makes no sense.
What does it matter what the live in does? You cannot control this person.
Kids flunk school for all sorts of reasons.
No need to speculate or add to the drama. If they hit the family up for $$, no is a complete sentence. That's easier than getting your underwear in a bunch about something you have no control over.
I agree we can only do so much. But one of things in this relationship other than us being hit up for money IS or was the amount of money involved in this relationship.
The relative had a very good run including a white collar management position which allowed to him to spend money freely on all his crap and on the live in-this included Carribean vacations,alcohol and food no matter the venue or price. After years together knowing his pay and how freely he spends money I can't but help think she sees a money train. Or maybe it's his connections when it comes to party time.
You try to avoid his 'life' but he seems to go out of the way to tell you what's going and/or live it with him. It's like he wants to be the center of attention. But he also gives you his stories of whoa in an attempt to butter you up for money.
Yes the kid could be flunking for all sorts of reasons. Right off the bat the kid comes from a broken home ie divorced parents. But the amount time the live- in spends OUT on a school night especially makes you wonder. How could you as a child concentrate on pending school work when you don't even know who will be watching you tonight or study when mommy's taking you to a sitter.