Thanks Ann
Yes, your post is very helpful to me. I have been told that by not letting my A "crash and burn" on his own, I was codependent and that his recovery may only be temporary since he didn't do it all on his own. I feel like he DID recover on his own....I was simply there to make sure he didn't kill himself before he was ready to get better. I would only have considered leaving if he was unwilling to attempt to recover or if he was violent and abusive. I did the best I could...and I may have let some of my needs go by the wayside during the worst of it. I simply had to prioitize....