I am so sorry
Lola1024. My prayers are with you and your family right now.
As for this:
I know contact was maybe the wrong thing to do but I did it anyway. It is so darn hard to be strong when a bunch of stuff goes wonky all at once.
You did nothing wrong. This is likely the least of your worries right now so please do not beat yourself up about breaking No Contact. If you can get to an Al-Anon meeting, it would be good for you, especially now, to have that social support.