sandrawg

Not only that, but the fact that he is functional...allows him justification to continue to be in denial about his problem.

My xabf kept holding up the fact that he still had his job, as proof that he wasn't an alcoholic.

Funny, but losing his gf didn't seem to register in there as a symptom of any problem...???

One of his enabling drinking buddies even said, "the only thing J's drinking is screwing up, is your relationship with him." as if, the rel'ship was totally inconsequential.

Yeah, unfortunately, although we do not wish harm of anyone in this disease, sometimes it's good for them to lose their jobs, rel'ships, etc...it forces them to hit bottom, and hopefully recognize they need help.