Originally Posted by
Toronto68 
Teal, I am actually confused your stepmother said that - but maybe her being your stepmother has something to do with it, who knows. I could be missing pieces to the story, but it makes sense to me that a person would need to focus on themselves. The person that recovers is the person writing your post, not others around them. That's the hope you have to go on. I don't minimize how others count, but without the self wanting life back, that's the danger.
My dad and stepmother have always emphasized that my relationships with others are extremely valuable, and that I need to think about their well being before making certain decisions. I don't exactly feel that my addiction was a decision in itself, but that bit of input that I mentioned was circulated a few times. I actually agree with her to a point, what I don't agree with is the complete level of it if you know what I mean. Anyhoo, thanks for the input- I really appreciate it.