Teal, I am actually confused your stepmother said that - but maybe her being your stepmother has something to do with it, who knows. I could be missing pieces to the story, but it makes sense to me that a person would need to focus on themselves. The person that recovers is the person writing your post, not others around them. That's the hope you have to go on. I don't minimize how others count, but without the self wanting life back, that's the danger.