Being on this forum has made me realize how hard it is to even be with a recovering alcoholic.
I always thought, it only my xabf would stop drinking.
But I know that is not the total solution. Obviously, there are deep psychological reasons and issues that led him into alcoholism in the first place, that would need to be worked on. And how could I forget all the harmful situations he got me in while drunk?
I think recovery is just a beginning, and doing the work--going to al-anon, therapy, workign the steps--is even more crucial during that time. Sometimes when the alcoholism is removed, the underlying problems in a relationship surface. This is where the really hard work can come in. It's crucial to have a lot of support during this time.