Originally Posted by
litehorse 
If you allow your anger to cause you to respond to them in an inappropriate way you have given them control over your life. I agree that a very straight forward response along the lines of "I do not need to hear from either of you about your activities" should be enough.
...and thanks for the reminder, to not let their actions affect my standards. I need to remember this is not about me either. They are doing what they're doing and aren't out to hurt me directly.
Interesting, though, no one has said I should warn her about him. She knows enough to know better I think...but then we aren't always good at seeing those red flags. He is quite the manipulator.