Hold it peeps. Stop. Right there.
Take a deep breath.
Walk around the block.
Come back tomorrow.
A few suggestions to think about.
1- Trying to change a fellow al-anon is no different than trying to change an active alkie/druggie.
2- Speaking for others when they are perfectly capable of speaking for themselves is one of the symptoms of co-dependency.
So _after_ you all have cooled down, we can try this again. But not for today.
Mike
Moderator, SoberRecovery