Hi and Welcome,
I'm glad that you are trying to get off the drugs and good for you for getting 2 days clean. I really think you should talk to your dr about the withdrawls and work with him.
Recovery is really hard and it seems to me that trying to do it with your husband could complicate things. It really is such a personal journey.
I will also say something you probably don't want to hear, but using alcohol to get off drugs is not a good way to begin recovery.