Welcome to SR, Seeker. Reading the stickies and posting is a great start to understanding. Hope you'll stick around because there is a lot of wisdom here.
Unfortunately, you were right when you said there's really nothing you can do. It sounds like she has relapsed and until she decides again, on her own, to stop, there is nothing you can do or say to change that. My advice is to do as she asks...just back off and leave her to decide what she wants to do. The more you try to engage and convince her that she shouldn't drink, the more you are setting yourself up for misery. She is an adult and has the right to live her life however she wants. So do you. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
