I am using rational recovery, the site is rational.org. You say, I will never drink again. Never. And you learn to recognize that Addictive Voice, the one that tells you that wine will make everything better. It lies to you, it deceives you, it will kill you to get that alcohol. Tell it NO!
This is how I quit smoking over 6 years ago. I said, finally, "I will never smoke again." And no matter what happened, smoking is not an option. Drinking is no longer an option now, either.
Check it out, AA didn't sit right with me, either, but this does. From what I read here and on other sites, there are many, many ways to get sober, but they all entail saying, Drinking is not an option.
Good luck,
Nancy