Sometimes it helps me to break things down. I take simple equations and add all kinds of complicating factors and breaking it down helps me.
Problem: You a have a co-worker that is making the work environment unbearable.
Solution: Step one - Try to handle the problem yourself - check. You've done that.
Step two - Go to management with your concern.
Simple equation.
I understand the complications but simple solutions are usually the only ones that work.
If she loses her job, that is her responsibility, not yours. Job loss would be a consequence of HER behavior, not yours.
RE: AA Literature. There are dozens of ways to get help if she wants it. Any half way cognizant person can find it in this day and age. She's hostile. I wouldn't worry about giving her anything personally.