Can't help someone who doesn't want to face the issues, right? But you know this, and you're strong, and you're venting here instead of unleashing it on him...because you know better. That's your growth, and...good for you!
I'm sorry you have to share one car. Ugh. Keep up the NC. Keep taking care of yourself.
Thanks for sharing the PA info. It has a huge wow factor for me. Fits my XABF, but I had never thought of it as PA, just as his way of dealing with abandonment issues from childhood. It's all related, no doubt...thanks for the eye opener, Transform.