Originally Posted by
sandrawg 
Anyway, you're right that you can't do much more than tell him how you feel and, if things don't get better ,make a choice for yourself whether to leave or stay.
This is the part I have been meditating on lately.
How I want to have "the talk" so that HE can choose to change. So that HE can see the light. So that HE can do...something. Maybe even make it clear (in words) to me that he refuses to change.
And even though he has made it clear in actions and words, I can't seem to hear them.
But for ME to choose to leave is for ME to take the risk. For ME to take action. For ME to move forward. Scary.
And exactly what I need.
I can know what I need for ME and take action toward getting MY needs met.
Deep.
Hugs,
Peace