thank you brightline,
that makes sense to me. I know that a lot of his denial is probably due to shame. I have been trying to talk to him about it, about how labels are not really accurate sometimes, and how probably a lot of us have some form of dysfunction, or imbalance, and how help could make a really wondeful difference in his life.
thank you, for your opinion. I am sure that there is a lot of wisdom here, and I shall take full advantage of it, as I have run out of steam.
a lot of folks said , dont help him. and I used to think that he was just an alcoholic, and tried to let him hit bottom. but now I think he needs some help, and it may be that I can get him going in that direction- at least, getting some psychiatric help anyway.