Originally Posted by
Freedom1990 
My personal experience is that Alanon is a lot more.
Alanon doesn't imply in any way, shape, or form, that I have to take a front row seat to anyone's alcoholism, including my 32 year old AD.
Alanon does give me a better way to live in all areas of my life.
Alanon gave me the strength to make some decisions that were initially painful, but eventually I moved to a place of emotional peace and wellness.
I no longer live with the chronic pain of watching an alcoholic die of the disease.
I regard AA as a "design for living," and pretty much see Al-anon in the same light. As such, I believe that a codependent is no safer "testing" him/herself in a relationship with an alcoholic than an alcoholic is in testing him/herself with old associations, hanging out in bars or having just one drink. I had to not only stop drinking, but learn a new way of seeing things, a new way of living, and that required me to give up my old ideas absolutely. I can't believe it's any different for an adrenaline addicted codependent.
blessings
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