Just "for the record"... Al-Anon doesn't actually recommend people up and leave thier spouses/partners. It's silent on this point (as far as I've known). So... just to clarify for the people who might not know much about Al Anon... it doesn't dictate that the non-alcoholic leave the alcoholic. It doesn't give instructions like that (either way).
I thinks it's a valid position to have... I just don't want anyone to get the wrong idea from your post. :-)