Yeah, as I read further into his blog, it started to bug me that he called himself a "victim." It's more like, a willing participant who has somehow deluded himself for 8 yrs that his wife is getting better, by him staying with her...?? Yet he continually reports on her severe health problems, and her frequent weeklong binges...
It's a very sad look into the depths of the lies someone will tell themselves to tolerate an insane situation because, as he himself admitted, he's afraid to be alone. Or he feels he can't find someone else.