Hi Piggle
Being an Anon or codependent isn't about leaving. That choice rests with the individual. Many have chosen to stay, and this program is about helping ourselves get through the rough times and living healthy happy lives.
Your choice to stay was right for you. And no one should ever challenge that. What is "right" for each of us may be very different, but when we are healthy and grounded, we are then capable of making good "choices" and one choice may be to stay. There is nothing wrong with that.
In some cases, staying is not the choice, and it could be a very destructive situation to be in. Sometimes we have to move on, and move out to be able to live a healthy happy life.
The point is that we cannot allow the disease of codepency to eat away at us continually, or we will become very very sick indeed. So we practice our recovery, work our steps, and focus on looking after ourselves, whether or not we stay or go.
I see a lot of confusion about this issue, so I hope this helps anyone who feels they are failing their recovery by staying. It just isn't so.