coffee and everyone, I want you to know that you've helped another person with this topic. My cousin had a similar situation yesterday and it caused her a great amount of anxiety. I asked her if she was putting the cart before the horse and if she's made it to the place where she's fulfilling all her own needs first. She cried and couldn't hardly talk when she realized the answer was no, but she also regained her sanity and serenity. I was reading all the comments here when I was talking with her. Thank you for helping me help her
