The message is this - I - WE - all deserve people who will love us completely. Shame on those that do not appreciate us, tell us the truth, and value our love. We can only save ourselves.
When I finally came to that realization it was a light bulb moment for me... and then my very wise angel-sponsor reminded me that I had to do it too - love myself completely, tell myself the truth and value my own love. I spent a lot of time looking outside of myself for validation.
Good for you making good choices and setting firm boundaries. You are setting a strong example for your son and a good path for yourself!