Hey EW, I was in my first marriage and when I got sober the first time, she took off in the opposite direction. Meaning she started doing what I was trying to stop. That lasted for about two years, it got so bad I was never home and one day she said she wanted a divorce. I wasn't spiritually fit and not very close with anyone in the program, so I did the logical thing and ended up being drunk for the next 7 years. I was hard dude, but I got sober again and have been ever since. That's my experience with that. Don't know if it helped.