Originally Posted by
HumbleBee 
IMO, yes.
You'd be setting the condition that she has to get into recovery, period...one week, one month, 6 months, it makes no difference...you would not be allowing her to make her own decision to get well.
If I read your post correctly, your partner has not even accepted that she has a problem with alcohol.
That has to happen before any chance of recovery is even successful.
It's not easy, but staying in a bad relationship just because it hurts to let go only prolongs the pain, in my experience.
Okay, then how do I say to her that I do not want to have contact with her and if I ever do, it would only be on the condition that she's in recovery? I think that is fair. I feel like that is a boundary for me.
And yes, she admitted she had a problem very early on, and now she's resentful of me for having her "believe" it and is back in denial drinking more than ever before... unfortunately she is 27 and lives with her family and they all enable her drinking... she laughs because her mother owns a bar/restaurant and gives her free alcohol whenever she wants.
Anyway
