Originally Posted by
Katfshh 
I have two issues that I am dealing with. My son 18 years old, went to detox in Oct for heroin addiction. He and all of his friends, the friends he has been with since kindergarten, were smoking it. He had a recent relapse. He is now living with my ex, and seems to be doing ok. Time will tell.
Were you going to Alanon during any of this?
If you can take a stance like this with your son, you have the ability to take the same stance with your alcoholic fiance'.