OKAY...EVERYONE BACK TO YOUR CORNERS...PUT DOWN THOSE SKILLETS!!! 
Tell me what step says "We came to believe that beating ourselves up would solve anything".
Take thee to thy corners. Get out your best reading materials. Light a candle. Put on some NICE music. And repeat over and over again...I will NOT beat myself up. I will NOT question my judgement. I will NOT think I have to be perfect. I WILL do the best I can and leave it at that.
The skillet is a wonderful tool. Consider yourselves whacked. And now I will give you a little kick with the "Bunny Slipper' of comfort.
For the love of recovery, do something NICE for yourself.
That's all...I feel so much better now. Love you all.