I'm not sure what I can say that will help. I fell for the routine so many times. I left, I believed the lies, I went back, realized they were lies and things were getting worse... I left again and have stayed gone. When I left, and for a long time after, I was in total denial about the emotional abuse; I ignored it. My reason for leaving was that I didn't want our son to grow up living in the same house as an alcoholic father and seeing that every day. Now that I'm coming to terms with 'yes, it was abuse', I'm even more at peace with my decision to leave.
I know that nothing my family said about my relationship with my STBXAH changed my mind. I had to realize that my son and I deserved more.
