"He realizes a lot of his issues come from having 2 A parents and growing up in that environment,"
My take is that it's great to have insight as to where we ended up.... But the trick is not to use that as an excuse, but rather motivation to do the work nesc. to change the 'ole MO. You shouldn't have to life coach him IMHO. That being said healthy often couples often divide responsibilities along the lines of their respective altitudes/strengths. Seems like your guys are in a position to do some really productive stuff...