Originally Posted by
Helenlee 
I'm not sure I agree it's ALWAYS a good thing for codependents to trust their gut instinct. Maybe sometimes its good to run stuff past an intelligently chosen third party.
Well, I do believe that it's always a good thing to trust my gut instinct. But, having said that, I was not always able to distinguish my gut instinct from the "committee voices." It's taken some time and practice to learn when it's my gut, and when it's conditioned habits, or people pleasing, or something else.
A third party "gut check" can be a good thing, if you can be fairly certain the person doesn't have their own agenda. For me, it's more important to get real with myself and pay attention. The gut instinct is usually not as "loud" as the other, not so healthy "voices."
L