Thank you all, thank you Freedom. Yes, you're right...I'm aware of a lot of the reasons why I was attracted because I have been in counseling for co depency. I should have just kept going when I got the call from her after rehab because my instincts were right to walk away before when I realized there was a serious problem. I did handle it differently with her than I did 3 years ago with someone who I had been involved with for 5 years, but I guess I'll be in the place I need to be when I don't handle it at all and just walk away at the first sign of a serious problem and just stay away.